My original intention as I began writing this “Mother’s Day” story was to write a “feel good, carefree, lovey-dovey, cotton-candy-fluffy story.” But then I remembered we live in an imperfect world. Recent stories of mothers who turned against their own children are evidence of this fact. For example, a couple of weeks ago a mother locked her six-year-old son in a dog cage, poured syrup and cat litter over his hands and feet, and made him hold a brick in each hand over his head. A neighbor told a television news crew that she heard the boy crying and screaming; “Please don’t kill me” and “I thought you loved me.”
Then there’s the recent story of the mother who drove her black mini-van … with her three children still inside … into the surf of the Atlantic Ocean. Witnesses reported seeing one child wrestle with his mother for the steering wheel while another was crying and waving for help out of the rear window. As rescuers neared the mini-van one child was heard saying; “Please help us, our mom is trying to kill us.
The reality is … as rewarding as motherhood is… it can also be very hard and demanding. So much so, that some mothers mentally ‘snap’. So tell me, how do you react when your child steps on your last nerve? What do you do when you reach the end of your rope with your children? Give me your honest answer. Not some airbrushed response that paints you as being a perfect, flawless mother. The reality is … there’s not a perfect mother. Never has been and never will be. Even my own mother who (in my eyes) is worthy of being named the “World’s Best Mother” will tell you that she wished she had done some things differently with her four children. So pause … and do some soul-searching. Better yet, do like King David did and ask God to search your heart. “Search me [thoroughly], O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there is any wicked or hurtful way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”—Psalm 139:23-24 (AMP)
Whether you ask God to search your heart or not … He’s already done it. And not just yours but mine too. And get this, though God sees every blemish we have (and some of them are really ugly) … still He loves us and stands ready to help us. God understands the pressures of being a mother. So if you ever feel like harming your children … please, cry out to God instead. Ask God to calm your inner turmoil and to give you peace of mind. Better yet, ask God to help you now. By doing so, God will set you on the path to becoming the mother you’ve always wanted to be. The mother your children need and deserve.
When you get to your wits end you will find, God lives there. ~Author Unknown
Debra Joy Wallace is an inspirational columnist and speaker. To learn more visit her website: www.debrajoywallace.com and her Facebook page; “Weighty Inspiration by Debra Joy.”